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A Stanford strength coach crashed ‘The Bachelor’ to try to win back his ex-girlfriend. He failed.

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Ross Jirgl made a valiant effort, but came up short.

A strength and conditioning coach for the Stanford football team made a surprise appearance on The Bachelor on Monday, with the goal of breaking up a burgeoning relationship between one of the season’s frontrunners and Arie Luyendyk Jr. — a former professional race car driver and the season’s lead.

The football coach gave it 100 percent, but his Hail Mary fell incomplete in the end zone.

Meet Ross Jirgl, the strength coach in our story.

His official bio on Stanford’s website:

The former Minnesota State linebacker has worked since 2013 at Stanford, Cal, Green Bay, and South Alabama. He is, objectively, an exceptionally handsome young man.

Meet Becca K., the Bachelor contestant in our story.

A screen grab from a recent Bachelor episode.

Becca K. is one of the last two contestants heading into next week’s season finale. People seem to be generally pulling for Becca, a Minneapolis publicist who appears to have a genuine and dynamic connection with Arie. But that doesn’t mean there isn’t a wide range of views on her.

“A good girl who wants to be a bad girl,” one Bachelor-watching source said.

“She’s a sweet girl from Minnesota who is trying to be edgy, but clearly isn’t,” said another.

“A wholesome Minnesota girl,” another said.

“She seems normal enough,” another said.

In Monday’s show, the strength coach tries to win Becca back.

Ross enters the fray trying to rekindle a romance from his past.

The Ringer’s Rodger Sherman, a Bachelor authority, explains how it all unfolds:

As Ross explained, he found out that Becca was on the show a week before, looked online and “called some people,” found out that she was in Peru, got on an overnight flight to Peru, and drove five hours from where his plane landed to Becca’s hotel. (We’re supposed to believe he did all of this on his own—he tells the camera “I don’t want to be on this show!”—when, obviously, he could not have found Becca without ample help from The Bachelor’s producers.) He claimed that he “walked through the desert” to get to Becca and told Arie he “would have swam here” if he needed to.

All of this is fishy, and I suspect we’re being thrown for a loop by the producers. But I’m willing to play along and see where this saga ends, so I continue:

Ross first talked to [actual Bachelor protagonist] Arie, who was stunningly chill about the situation. “Hey, what’s going on?” he said when he opened the door of his hotel, as if Ross was an old friend and not a man who just traveled across the globe with the express purpose of breaking up a relationship. Most Bachelors would order Ross away, but Arie listened to Ross say “that proposal is mine to give” and merely asked Ross to “respect our relationship” if Becca declined his pitch. I bet this unnerved Ross: Strength coaches aren’t looking for rational solutions.

At one point, Becca says she thinks life is like a movie and that this is all going to “end up like The Notebook,” and Ross agrees wholeheartedly.

But Becca informs Ross they barely know each other anymore, given they’ve been broken up for about a year. They previously dated for seven years.

There’s no renewal in the cards here, and Ross’ bid fails. He refers to Arie, the actual Bachelor in The Bachelor, as a “fucking nerd” on his way off the show.

It’s a shame that Ross’ grand gesture didn’t translate.

All of that heavy lifting (traveling thousands of miles from the West Coast to Peru to go on the show and see his former lover) should have helped him put more points on the board (gotten back together with her and lived happily ever after). But sometimes, the strongest team in the trenches doesn’t have the speed or savvy to win in the spread offense era, and it turns out Ross’ brand of power football couldn’t get the job done.

Ross becomes at least the sixth Stanford football person to come in second place in a nationally televised competition since 2009. He joins five Cardinal players who have finished second in Heisman Trophy voting in the same span.