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Jonathan Martin posts powerful piece about his life and decision to retire from the NFL

Former NFL offensive tackle Jonathan Martin shared a powerful statement he posted on his personal Facebook page outlining his journey through the NFL and his decision to retire. Martin was set to play for the Carolina Panthers, but announced he was ending his career due to injury. He addressed not only his experiences in college, but who he is as a person and touched on the Dolphins' bullying scandal. Here is his entire post:

"You move to Los Angeles at 10 & attend JTD, then Harvard Westlake, both environments are completely new to you. You're one of just a handful of minorities in elite private schools. You learn to tone down your size & blackness by becoming shy, introverted, friendly, so you won't scare the little rich white kids or their patents. Neither black nor white people accept you because they don't undertand you. It takes away your self-confidence, your self-worth, your sanity.

You've been told you're not "black enough" your entire life. It nearly destroys you, many times, not fitting in. Your talent & accomplishments on the field never seem to be able to overcome the demons that you carry with you from your middle school and high school experiences. You're always inadequate, always the "pussy," the "weird kid who acts white."

You overcompensate, create a persona separate from who you really are, use it as motivation to gain respect from playing a game. Make a fool of yourself at times. Anything in the quest to one day to feel "cool." You see football as the only thing that you are good at, your only avenue to make the shy, depressed, weird kid from high school "cool." To the outside world many assume you to be somewhat egotistical, womanizing, over-the-top; a typical football player.

Years later, your time in the NFL is a wake up call. In all likelihood anyone else in your shitty locker room situation probably wouldn't take everything so personally, would've been able to brush it off and say "fuck it," you're making millions. You're starting as a rookie. You're living your dream." But you're different. Have always been different. Have always been more sensitive.

You thought your same work ethic that had made you a two-time All-America, a 2nd Rd NFL draft pick, would earn you respect. After all, you have achieved what only a select few other first-year players achieved: starting all 16 games, barely missing a snap.

You are very wrong. You realize years later, reflecting on your experiences, that sometimes you need to take what you want, what you earned, from people who refuse to give it to you. You need to demand respect, and be willing to fight for it every day. The whitewashed, hermetically-sealed bubble you grew up in and were educated in did not provide any of these lessons.

You were raised in a good household. You know you are a flawed person. Have done stupid, regrettable things. But you know right from wrong. And consider integrity to be incredibly important. The worst thing of all, in your mind, is being called a liar.

Your job leads you to attempt to kill yourself on multiple occasions. Your self-perceived social inadequacy dominates your every waking moment & thought. You're petrified of going to work. You either sleep 12, 14, 16 hours a day when you can, or not at all. You drink too much, smoke weed constantly, have trouble focusing on doing your job, playing the sport that you grew up obsessed with.

But one day, you realize how absurd your current mindset is, that this shit doesn't matter. People don't matter. Money doesn't matter. Fame and notoriety sure as hell don't matter. Nothing matters besides your family, a few close friends, and your own personal happiness.

You play another year and a half and get badly injured. You want to keep playing, but having broken free of the addition that football has been, you know inside that risking permanent debilitating injury isn't worth it. So you retire.

You realize that your experiences have taught you that you need to leave the baggage behind. "Friends" who you played high school football with saying whatever to get their name in an article. Former coaches blowing up your phone trying to be your financial advisor. Your god father suddenly appearing your senior year of college out of thin air bearing gifts, trying to get tickets to your games & slyly asking your parents to manage your money.

You realize who truly has had your back. Who the people are who you need to embrace. And cherish every moment you have with them. You let your demons go, knowing that, perhaps, sharing your story can help some other chubby, goofy, socially-isolated, sensitive kid getting bullied in American who feels like no on in the world cares about them.

And let them know that they aren't alone."

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